Tikkun International - Isreal's Restoration
Keep Your Relationships Bigger than Your Problems
by Revive Israel Staff, Revive Israel
January, 2018 - Volume 27, Issue 01

This article was first published on the Revive Israel website here on November 23rd 2017 and on the Kehila News website here on December 13th 2017.

"That they all may be one, as You Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me" (John 17:21).

Working with others can often be a challenge. "Iron sharpens iron" (Proverbs 27:17), but at the same time this can make sparks fly and cut us deeply. Recently, I learned one of the most difficult yet empowering lessons in my walk with God.

In a training session, Dr. Jim Wilder of Life Model Works, said to me, "One critical mark of maturity is learning to keep our relationships bigger than our problems."

That phrase kept going through my spirit, helping me to transform my attitudes, because I had a lot of tension in my relationships, and I was desperate for His help. Every time I began to get "stuck" in this way, I could hear the Lord saying:

"My child, your problems are temporal, one day they will disappear. Your relationships are eternal, they will last forever in My kingdom. So make your relationships bigger than your problems."

You see, my pattern of self-preservation had been to simply cut off the person who was overwhelming me and then I thought I had resolved my problem - because I thought the person WAS my problem! I had to learn to keep my relationships separate from my problems.

I remember one particularly difficult ministry relationship. While in prayer, the Lord told me: "I have an inheritance in that person. It really matters to me that I receive the glory that is due to Me from that person's life. The way that he is right now, I may not receive it, I need an intercessor in prayer and I'm allowing you to fill the gap. Will you be a champion for him in secret? Will you pray that everything which I have ordained for him will come to pass?"

I was still angry and hard hearted. The Lord said to me, "Do you love Me?" He paused a while for the answer from my heart. "Will you pray that I receive the glory that is due to Me?"

I saw how hard hearted I had become. I said with a softened heart and tears in my eyes, "Yes, Lord I will pray for my brother's fullness."

Isn't that what Yeshua has done with each of us? We are full of problems and repeatedly unable to agree with Him. Yet, He makes His relationships with us bigger than the problems. This is one way to grow in intimacy and maturity. Let's ask Him for grace to imitate Him in this way.

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There have been comments to this article ...

1:11pm 02Jan18, Michele: This article has spoken volumes to me. I am mature follower of Yeshua, yet the "forgive 70x7" has still become a stumbling block for me, this has a fresh revelation of His Will be done on earth .... it is a hard thing to crucify the flesh however, in order to fulfill all of our destinies in Him this is a good word, "Do you love Me??" Yikes ... a solemn reminder Yeshua is not simply asking but it is a commandment for the health of the Body. God bless you brother.

2:09pm 02Jan18, MB: Thank you. This is a really good article and a new way to think about relationships. YES - relationships can be so difficult. But thinking of them in light of this: "One critical mark of maturity is learning to keep our relationships bigger than our problems" truly puts these problems in God's light, not my own thinking.

2:42pm 02Jan18, Philip Latham: This could not be more apt for me with my youngest daughter, who loves the LORD, engaged to a very likeable young man who does NOT know our Saviour. We shall keep praying for him that everything God has ordained for him will come to pass.

8:39pm 03Jan18, Darla Ellyson: Absolutely true!!

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